Mean people, well you know, SUCK!!!

Excuse my potty mouth, but mean people can exhibit behavior that is so hurtful. I realize mean people have insecurities and most likely have deep hurts themselves that haven't been healed. Regardless of knowing why, it's still hard to be around these people. Ultimately, mean people are not forever friends. You can either avoid them or understand why they are this way. Even if you understand their behavior, it's still hurtful. My best advice is to stop trying. Here is my list of mean people behavior.

1-  They don't respond to your texts after you put yourself out there.
2-  They act like they want to hang out, but don't accept invitations to meet up.
3-  If they do agree to hang out, they cancel last minute.
4- To your face they are kind, but behind your back they trash talk you.
5- They want YOU to look bad in front of others and spin stories with half truths.
6- They don't include you in their plans, but your other friends are.
7- They constantly make fun of you, and not in a friendly way.
8-  You serve them, but they don't reciprocate.
9-  You can't talk about things that bug you to make it better, because they don't care enough.
10- If you complain about something, they combat your feelings or withhold validation.
11- They never keep what you shared in confidence. It's another way to make fun of you behind your back.
12- They make you feel safe in the moment, but don't hesitate to share your personal life with people who don't know or care about you.
13- They secretly judge you and take everything you say the wrong way.
14- They feel superior to you if you are not as educated even though you have a more open mind about things.
15- They police everything you say and try to take offense even when it's not intended.

It takes strength to be kind, not mean. These people are toxic. If you take delight in being mean to people, you are overcompensating for something that is lacking in you.  Being mean is operating through your wounds. Like a bully. Bullies take delight in being mean, but deep down all they really want is love and acceptance.

Written by Christiana Bastian Macy